Anal sex....? hi frens.i am a 21 yrs old girl having a bf.we r getting married in a few months,we hv sex many times,but wht i hate is anal sex which my bf always insists for.Now wht to do,he has been trying for it from 6 months but i am not allowing it.He says it is exciting but i think i am not ready for this as i am very scared of this as i hv heard of many things abt it.Now wht to do..pls help! |
| Tell him no. Remember, sex isn't always about one person. |
Anal Sex!!!!? I am a female. I absolutely love anal sex!!! I prefer it over vaginal intercourse. I was just wondering if it was okay for me to have anal sex all the time or is it harmful? |
Some people claim that anal sex causes the sphincter to relax and can lead to leakage later in life. I've also seen that those reports are entirely made up just to scare people away. Maybe WebMD or coolnurse.com can help.
I know that if not done properly anal sex can cause a colon perferation, but it sounds like you've got that figured out. |
ANAL sex??? Is anal sex healthy? I have heard alot that it has many side-effect in women health.. what is the true? |
Goodness . . . I feel scared having people like holyvarny around. I don't know why people feel a need to put their own personal feelings and opinions into answers that should be based on facts.
Here are the facts:
Anal sex does have inherent risks, but then again, all sex has some risk, I think. The tissues that line the anus and rectum are very delicate, very thin, and quite sensitive (much more so than vaginal tissue, which can, quite honestly, take a lot of abuse before anything bad happens), which may lead to small tears. They are usually nothing to worry about, but they are there, and because feces do travel that route, there is always a chance of infection in one of the small, miniscule tears. Sometimes such tears may develop into fissures, which turn into cracks, and can become infected, with the possibility of gradually extending out through the wall of the bowels and forming a channel across, through and into a nearby organ. That's called a "fistula", and it would allow feces to flow from the rectum into the vagina and out (not a good thing). This, of course, is the possible consquence they talk about for women who practice anal sex, since men who practice receptive anal sex do not have such a problem.
But at the same time, these are worst-case scenarios. The majority of people experience nothing more than pleasure from anal sex, even if they practice it often.
Don't believe the myths that anal sex causes hemorrhoids or that it will stretch out your anus and leave you incontinent- those aren't true. Unless you're taking a very large object (like the size of a fist or arm) into the anus every day for ten years, you'll be absolutely fine- the rectum is a muscle that shrinks back to its normal size after anal sex. Believe me, it's resilient- it can take a heck of a lot without any ill effects.
Anal sex can be very pleasurable for both sexes, and yes, it has potential dangers, but nothing about it is inherently unhealthy. Many women enjoy it and suffer no ill effects. If you're going to do it, go very, very slow, make sure you practice safe sex (it's easier to get STD's with anal sex), use tons and tons and tons of a good-quality lube made specifically for anal sex, and build up to the real thing (I suggest starting with fingers or small toys). Get very aroused or have a few orgasms before you start so that you're relaxed. Try bearing down like you're having a bowel movement when being entered; for some reason, it helps (alternatively, you can try squeezing your butt closed as tight as possible for thirty seconds and then have pushed in- it takes a minute for you to tighten back up). Don't use lubes that have numbing agents in them (like Anal-Eze)- if something goes wrong, you won't know what's happening, and pain is, after all, your body telling you that something's wrong. Don't give up on anal sex if you don't like it the first time- it takes a few tries before it becomes mind-blowingly pleasurable. Don't do it if you don't want to (don't be pressured by anyone if you feel uncomfortable). Remember that first-time anal sex can be quite uncomfortable, but it shouldn't be painful- sex should never be painful. Do lots of research and read up on the issue beforehand, and share this information with your partner. Make sure he/she knows what's going down when you decide to do anal sex. And remember to have fun- that's what sex and experimentation is all about!
Hope that helps. |
Anal Sex...??///? I want to try anal sex with my husband(want him to try it on me)But he seems very reluctant about trying it. We have discussed this before and he doesnt really agree with it nor does he disagree. I think he may be considered the sanitary issue which I am too.Maybe we can use condoms thats fine with me.Any other suggestions as to ways to open him up to trying it with me? How does it feel? Does it make your butt bigger or looser? (Would rather answers from people who experienced it) |
Dont worry it isnt gonna be as messy as you imagined. Condoms should help with the case of sanitary issue. About pain, do not be fast or rough at the first. It muight end up tearing your rectum. Put fingers(with condom on them) one first, then two then three to widen the rectum. Do not push his penis all of a sudden like you see in porn. It will hurt like hell.
And dont worry about him liking it...If he does it once, he'll do it again. AAhh....i love forbidden sins. |
Anal sex??????????????????? I cannot imagine me having anal sex. It's just...wrong. Everyone has certain things to turn then on and off, and to me this is such a turn off! Two of my past boyfriends were always talking about anal, I had another guy who actually didn't find the idea appealing at all (Thank goodness!). I mean that's where our waste comes out of!!! How can that possibly be a turn on??? Please explain to me... |
| maybe you get turned on by having a dick in ur mouth or by getting choked or something else during sex, what you think is normal others may not understand. Like the previous guy said dont knock it till you try it, for all you know you may love it and completetly agree with it after you do it. Be mature, ya your wastes come out of there but as long as she is clean then ur wastes will not play any role in the act. Guys eat your pussy but thats not gross is it? and ur piss comes out of there, just like when your blowing a guy, his piss comes out of there but thats not disgusting is it? If you are a nasty girl then i can see how it can be disgisting but if you are in any way hygenic then there is nothing unsanitary about it. Be open minded, if not then too bad for you and whatever guy you are with. remember what one girl wont do another one will, so keep that in mind when you are wondering if you are one of a kind. cause with that mind set you can get replaced real quick. |
When does anal sex start feeling good for a woman? my boyfriend and i recently started having anal sex. it doesnt hurt any more but now i just dont feel anything. just him going in and out as opposed to any pleasure. do i need to be wider or is something wrong? |
| Sometimes it is about perception. It may take re-thinking about how you view that area of your body during that action. If you are still viewing it as a utility you may have trouble overcoming the uncomfortability that is preventing you from reaching the enjoyment. You should try playing with yourself while you are being penetraited. That helped me and some of the tips in the article on realsexadvice.com taught me how to enjoy it much more. |
How effective is anal sex against pregnancy? I have read on many websites that pregnancy, though unlikely, is still possible if semen dripped from the anus to the vaginal area, but I cannot seem to find any actual percentages of how often pregnancy occurs among women who have anal sex as a form of birth control. Please list your sources so that I can read up on this. Thanks! |
| very low chances...just be careful you don't get sperm near the vagina...and also, urinary tract infections are very common with anal sex because there is bacteria in the intestinal tract and if it gets near the vagina/urethra it will cause a urinary tract infection, so NEVER go directly from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning up first... |
How dangerous is anal sex without a condom? Me and my girlfriend are planning to have anal sex soon. (I know weird) and we are wondering. Is it safe to do this without a condom? |
Unprotected anal sex puts you at risk of not only contracting HIV/AIDS, but other STDs as well. In fact, the risk of HIV transmission is greater than in vaginal intercourse because the lining of the rectum tears more easily than the vagina. The resulting skin breaks and bleeding increase the possibility of the transmission of bodily fluids containing the virus that causes AIDS.
It is important that if you and your partner have not been tested for STDs, that you practice safe sex during oral, vaginal, and anal sex to avoid STD transmission. |
How are you supposed to feel after anal sex? I know it's a weird question but a couple nights ago, someone had anal and their not exactly sure how their supposed to feel afterwards because they've heard a lot of things.
Also if you have anal sex are you still a virgin? |
Well you know, It didn't technically go in the vagina,
so I believe that person would still be a virgin.
My boyfriend did stuff before, and claims he didn't lose his virginity.
And you know I believe him.
Because losing your virginity means putting it in your vagina.
It's just like oral sex, your still a virgin there. no difference.
Just because it goes in a hole doesn't mean it's devirninzed. haha.
A friend of mine said it hurt really bad, because your not use to objects going that way.
She sat on a bag of peas for a few hours.
Made the swelling go down I guess.
Hope I helped. |
What is the chance of contracting hiv from protected anal sex and unprotected oral sex? Last week, I had protected anal sex with another man. I also had unprotected oral sex. I am really worried about Hiv. Should i be concerned? |
Obviously if the man in question is HIV negative, the chance of him giving you HIV is zero.
Both the activities you list are relatively low risk for transmission. There have been a couple rare cases of people acquiring HIV through only oral sex. In general unprotected oral sex is pretty safe as far as HIV goes. Current thinking is you'd almost have to have an open cut or sore in your mouth, since the mouth and stomach are extremely hostile places for invading viruses.
Protected anal sex is much safer than unprotected anal sex. If the man giving was HIV positive, there is still some risk, mostly with condom slippage or breakage. Assuming the condom remained intact, you shouldn't worry too much.
HIV testing is pretty cheap these days and less painful that giving blood. There's certainly no harm in you going in for testing just for peace of mind. |